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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice would be similar to the advice I give regarding choosing a partner:
Recognize your value
Understand what your boundaries are and maintain them
Be flexible, kind and polite but don't be guilted or pushed
You are not responsible for managing someone else's feelings
Do not take responsibility for things that are not yours to be responsible for

I come from a dysfunctional family of origin and had worked really hard to understand it before I even met DH.  It took me a while to see his family dysfunction because it was far more subtle than mine - but no less toxic.  Because of the work I'd done prior, I was able to avoid getting sucked into their drama but there was a lot of backlash that nearly derailed our relationship because DH didn't see it and/or was too uncomfortable to address it.  Now that the older generation is dead, DH and his same aged relations are better able to see it and my relationship with his side of the family is really good.  I love the younger generation and am close to a lot of them but I'm still a bit reserved with those who are my age/older - lingering trust issues.  They stood by either silent or complicit while I was bashed. [/quote]

Yep. If you can stick it out eventually time will take care of things. 👍[/quote]

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