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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One day your kids (assuming you have them) will be grown and married and you will be an in law yourself. Understand that the in laws want a relationship with their child but [b]that MIL isn’t your competition. [/b]
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I don’t think many women here understand this concept at all. [/quote]

Agree with others that often the problem is that the MIL sees you as competition.

I never viewed my MIL as competition but was kind of shocked when I had a baby and my MIL started competing with me directly. I had a girl and she’d only ever had boys and she honestly kind of lost it for a while. Some of the stuff she said to me during my DD’s first two years of life are still shocking to me— she told me I didn’t deserve my happiness, that my baby would be better of being raised by her, and that I was a selfish, mean person for wanting to spend time with my baby instead of letting MIL do so. It was really upsetting.

I think that negative relationship between ILs and DILs/SILs most often have to do with the baggage people bring into the relationship. And lots of people have baggage. The idea that you can have a good relationship with ANY in law is nuts. It really depends on what they are bringing to the table. The more important thing is to make sure you have a good relationship with your spouse that can weather any issues with ILs.[/quote]

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