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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is 70. That’s not very old, OP.

My advice is to leave her alone and tend to the relationship. [/quote]

No, OP is right.

You aren't going to KNOW the moment when you need POA. I started pressing my parents, mostly my mom because of my dad's progressing Parkinsons (meaning he is not able to be her poa for cognitive reasons) when she was in her early 70's. She finally did it around age 74 to make me poa for them both and her poa for him.

Less than two years later, I got the call that she was in the ambulance after a bad fall (dad fell with her and he also had to be hospitalized) and in an instant, I needed that POA and I'm so grateful I had it! As the child, I'm the one they called, I'm the one who the doctor asked about DNR for the hip surgery, I'm the one who had to get them placed in a rehab, I'm the one who had to pay their bills while they were in rehab for 6 weeks after so they would have power and water at home.I needed and used that POA then.

If OP's mom is not married (sounded like she wasn't) and OP is the one who would do those things, then yes, she needs to be made POA now. Mom can make it so that it is in effect if Mom is 'incapacitated' . That's what I have, my mom is mostly recovered now so she is Dad's poa right now and I'm not excercizing any poa at this time.[/quote]

I’m guessing the OP’s mother isn’t feeling good about giving POA to OP. After all, OP frames this as “stubborn senior” and is saying “should I respect her wishes?” I mean, come on. [/quote]

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