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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe they cut you off because you made it obvious that you hated them and weren’t grateful to them for raising you?[/quote]
I have spent my entire life trying to earn their love.  Over and over and over they hurt me or dismissed me.  At some point you have to protect yourself.  [/quote]
This. I still remember what happened at age 17 when I received 213/220 in the Baccalaureate exam in Beirut and was invited to be on TV. My mom said I had cheated (impossible to do). When I won 2nd place in a piano competition for under 15, she said  only won because my piano teacher was a jury member (most participants had their teachers as  jury members). And when I win a full ride scholarship to go study in a very prestigious college in Germany, she simply never mentioned about the acceptance letter to me. This was a while ago and colleges communicated via regular mail. 
I was never good enough no matter what. Unfortunately my siblings are like her also.  [/quote]
At my PhD commencement, my Nobel prize winning advisor came over to tell my parents how impressive I was and how they should be very proud.  My dad replied, "Yeah, well my son is going to be a real doctor."  I hear you.

For the record, my brother is a failure to launch case and never even managed to complete the pre reqs to apply to med school.[/quote]

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