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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughters are in their thirties, and I've been happy to note that they & their peers are marrying bookish guys who would have been called geeks back in the day. They're avoiding the bro types and the conventionally attractive dudes. Beauty fades. These bookish guys aren't that successful...yet. They will be.[/quote]

Maybe your daughters' friends are smart enough and mature enough to be attracted to something other than looks alone.  In my 20s, I had a few boyfriends who were extremely attractive, but at that age I wasn't ready to get married.

As I got older, I was just naturally attracted more to personality, intelligence, etc., over conventional looks.  I dated a lot and had my choice of many guys.  The one I chose to be my DH was brilliant, fun, high earning, and great in bed, but most people would've thought his looks were more on the plain side (not ugly by any means, but not super hot like some of my old boyfriends).  I was so much more attracted to him than my previous boyfriend who was also a high earner and fun, and much more conventionally attractive, but not so great in bed and just moderately smart (Ivy educated but not truly brilliant like my DH), and who I just couldn't bring myself to marry.

Women like me who are smart, educated, and attractive have choices, and we're free to make our own decisions rather than follow society's expectations or follow some checklist.   If you had known my DH vs. the boyfriend I'd had before him, your superficial system would've thought the boyfriend was a much better catch.  DH was the right choice for me.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and these girls may see something in these guys that you don't.  [/quote]

You are very full of yourself. [/quote]

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