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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm happy for the people who love it. They found their thing and they're getting the most out of it.

I'm confused about the people who don't like it but continue to do it. It's optional. You can stop any time. There are loads of successful adults in the world who never played on expensive, time-sucking travel sports teams. What exactly are you afraid will happen if you just stop?[/quote]

It's one thing to never start, but taking away a sport that your kid loves and pores their heart into is another thing entirely.  [/quote]

A kid who knows he is not going to be a recruited athlete can understand that his travel sport is causing undue hardship on the family, and can find other activities. [/quote]

Kids may understand that, and feel heartbroken by it nonetheless, and [b]most parents seek to avoid that[/b] especially when the activity involves physical activity, the outdoors, friendships, mental stimulation - all every positive things. [/quote]

it's unfortunate that there are parents like this who seek to avoid hurting one kid's feeling at the expense of the entire family's well-being. [/quote]

It's not so black and white. The undue hardship may not be as hard as it seems to someone looking from the outside looking in. Perhaps the family is not giving up as much as you think they are. Some people just like to whine and make it seem like they are moving heaven and earth.

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I have seen families do some pretty crazy stuff to accommodate one child's travel sport at the expense of other children. Like moving, uprooting the other children from a school they were doing well at in the middle of the school year. And it's not just sports. There are families who do this for one child's acting or modeling or other hobby that [i]could[/i] lead to a lucrative adult career, but is statistically very unlikely. This article confirms things I have witnessed among my neighbors, DC's classmates and former classmates. It may not be the norm, but it certainly can become a problem for families who fall into a lopsided power balance where one child's hobbies dominate.

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/08/kids-youth-competitive-sports-programs/671034/[/quote]

This is the case for the sport DS excels in. There is almost no way to get better without moving, although a big reason is weather-related. Most of the kids at the middle school level that are world-class are also homeschooled. It's a unique situation because in his sport you can only do one part of it until you are 15 before you move to the next level. I can't believe the number of 13/14 year olds I have met that are doing a "gap year" to train fulltime. We will never be able to keep up between cost and jobs. DS knows this, but it still bums us all out, because he has potential. The good news is he can do his sports basically forever at all levels and also there is almost no earning potential, so it's purely for the love of it. [/quote]

Pickleball sucks [/quote]

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