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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same. I identify with everything you said.  I used to be social with various friend groups. I don’t know what happened…but it’s embarrassing. [b]Everyone is going out with friends and I’m always home alone.[/b] [/quote]

I don't think everyone is going out.  I could have written the OP's post and I very much agree that things changed during Covid and there are now a lot of very lonely and disconnected people.  (and yes, there are others who are very happy 
to no longer have social obligations).

I sometimes feel like I'm alone but then I look at my block.  I live in AU Park--neighborhood of families, kids, etc.  Known to be super social, etc.  Well, on a typical Friday or Saturday night EVERY single family on my block (10 families) is at home.  No one is 
entertaining.  I don't track the cars (no, I'm not a weird stalker) but I typically walk my dog around 7pm down the block and I know the cars (because I know the neighbors and day-after-day you know who drives what, etc).  Well there is no one coming or going (all cars are sitting in front of the homes) and no one is ever having a BBQ or back yard party.  We're all sitting in our homes.  
It's striking.  I really think people's socializing has been dialed way back over the past 2-3 years (by choice or not by choice)
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That’s just your weird block.  Everyone I know is out all three days of the weekend including us[/quote]

Tt's not a weird block.  I don't know anyone who is out 3 weekend nights.  However, we're all close to 50.  Our kids are no longer young.  We're no longer "socializing our kids". 
When I was in my late 30s I was far more social--going to kid's sporting events all the time, kid's parties, etc.  We were rarely home on the weekends.  Daytime things would turn into evening dinners with other families.
We vacationed with other families, etc.  
Things calm down a lot when your kids get older---which is part of OP's post.  Once the kid stuff, sports stuff, school crowd, mom group, etc social things end (people move, kids grow up) it can get pretty lonely. 
It's especially lonely for some of us who went through this transition during Covid (entered Covid with a late elementary school kid, came out the other end with a high schooler).  People moved, families changed schools, etc.
This was my demographic and my social world. 
I never lived in DC pre-kids (moved her with a 2 year old) so I didn't have a social world here that didn't involve kids.  My most recent job has been entirely remote.  
There are many of us that don't have a pre-kids DC social life.

The good news is that my kids (now all teenagers) have fabulous social lives.  They are out Fri and Sat nights every weeks.  All my socializing paid off in spades for them.  So I did my job.  
Just trying to pick up the pieces of my own life at this point.

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That’s strange that you get together less now that your kids are older. I noticed that between working and having kids I barely had time for friends. Now that my kids are independent (teens), I have so much more bandwidth to reconnect with old friends. It’s been great![/quote]

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