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[quote=Anonymous]Maybe the delivery was rough (or your summary is), but your sister has a very valid point.

I am one of 3 girls who was raised by parents who were VERY focused on looks, weight, etc. My "bless your heart" mother will comment on her own weight/eating/feeling like a pig, daily when we're together and will comment on strangers, friends, family, etc. Rarely does she say anything directly to her girls, but we all know what she and my dad are thinking. My mom still tells stories about leaving the hospital post birth in her pre-pregnancy clothes and my dad's comments influencing her eating when she was younger. So toxic and so ingrained into who they are. The outcome has been 1 sister with an eating disorder who has a child who has battled an eating disorder, and I have daily intrusive thoughts around being unhappy with my appearance, body, weight, etc. Not sure how it's impacted my other sister.

I know plenty of women who do the exact same shit with each other in front of their kids/daughters. Talk about feeling fat, what they've eaten, etc. and these are tiny women. And for my friends with teenage girls, even if they've been careful, the messaging around weight, looks, food, etc. is so insidious and all over social media, which then infiltrates peer groups. [/quote]

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