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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes it seems that the caregiving sibling blames the out of town sibling for pressures that 
actually stem from the misbehavior of a demanding parent. If the sister were to come to town and try and help out, there might be a different kind of post here about the seagull sister - the one that flies in, squawks loudly, and drops c**p on everyone.

No one wins.[/quote]

In truth, OP is making choices about how much hands-on caregiving she is willing to do, based upon her own value system and relationship with her parent, and OP’s sibling is making their own choices. They both have free will - OP is deciding to do laundry, etc. which is wonderful, but it is a CHOICE and not mandatory. OP could also choose to prioritize her own well being and step away from administering medications daily - if her mom is upset, so be it; her demands are unreasonable. OP’s sibling could argue that OP is martyring herself.

It’s wonderful when caregiving responsibilities are shared equally (and I admit to judging those who do nothing) but ultimately, everyone has the right to make their own decisions.

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