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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your privilege is showing and you have way too much time on your hands to be judgmental. The first question to think about is, do they all seem fine with the arrangement? if so, there is no issue.

There are many reasons multi-generational families live together which include-love and harmony, culture, financial, illness, mental health issues, neurodevelopmental issues and more. It is disgusting and disturbing to assume this is abusive.

My mother was like you and moved out as soon as we could. She judged the European family next door where the daughters lived at home until they married in their 30s. Now she envies how close they are and how often the grandkids come to visit the loving and generous grandparents.

My mother judged everything. Now she finds nobody wants to be around her. She gave unsolicited advice too. Just as she has lost her censor her "friends" have too and they no problem telling she is judgmental and nasty.

OP, rather than inserting yourself where you don't belong, consider counting your blessings and spending your free time doing volunteer work with those less fortunate.

By the way, my oldest has autism and while we do expect him to be able to have a job of some sort, he will likely live with us most of his life. Glad to know there are people like you who will assume I am abusive and overbearing when I have devoted endless hours and money to his therapies and advocating. I have dealt with more adversity than you could fathom between my own illness, difficult aging parents, husband's surgery and difficult recovery. Get some perspective and leave those of us forever parents alone.[/quote]

Multi-generational living requires psychologically healthy people and families who set and honor boundaries (hint: not most people).

Otherwise it’s an amalgamation of DSM 5 disorders that would have Freud rolling in his grave.[/quote]

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