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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your DH handle ANY unpleasant tasks? Could he have a similar gripe about you? Something to think about. I’m sure you are not perfect.

Taking non swimmers (especially more than one) to the pool is no fun. Never was for me. As a family, go stay at a hotel or vrbo with a pool, and get the 7yo swimming confidently at least. Both you and DH, together. Likely he will be more inclined to assist on a vacation as opposed to a crowded pool full of neighbors.  Lessons year round for both kids. Next summer work on your 4yo as above. YES you still need to watch like a hawk but you will be well on your way to having a far more pleasant time at the pool.

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This is op. He wouldn't swim even on our beach vacation in the swimming pool. He sucks all the joy out of my life. I have been working on swimming for years with our 7-year-old. He loves water play but is very scared to emerge his face in the water for more than a few seconds. We do lessons, but of course, I need to drive them. All the unpleasant is on me. If I didn't do it, I would be in zero activities. It's a lot of pressure on me. I feel like I am a single mom sometimes. I'm always the only solo parent. I feel like this, even on vacations. I took the kids to see the fireworks on the fourth alone!! Who dies when they are married? [/quote]

NP. You seem overly invested in this. My kid was like yours and didn’t really learn to swim until middle school because it was painful to watch him.

It sounds like you really hate your DH. Maybe you’re spending so much time with the kids he doesn’t feel like your partner? There’s always two to make a relationship. If you don’t want to divorce, change your behavior and/or thoughts and see if your DH positively responds. If not, call divorce lawyers on Monday. Life is too short. 
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