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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you weren’t very considerate of her feelings but I agree her request was wrong.

Can you go to her and say “I’m sorry - I think I overreacted to your request.  It’s non-negotiable to me that limits be placed on my kids’ access to the house but if you can live with it, I would still like you to move in.  But in doing so, you should know this is never going to change, so you do need to get on board with this lifestyle.”

It’s less aggressive than the way you spoke to her previously .[/quote]

Honestly I think they’re doomed if this is what it takes. The GF is always going to feel put out and annoyed by them even if she pretends to “get on board” with the lifestyle. She is either going to always feel like a guest in the family (ie dad and kids’ home) or like they’re intruding on her home. She doesn’t see herself and the kids as part of a unit in that home. What happens down the line when OP becomes a grandparent and his kids are popping by with a toddler.

I really don’t think I could ever date a non-parent because they truly don’t get how much your kids will always come first. [/quote]

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