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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did it after the 6 week checkup. I was nervous and I made my husband promise to be gentle. It was fine, we resumed regular sex but I didn’t particularly enjoy it for a few months. It didn’t hurt, but I felt uncomfortable. [/quote]

This is really sad and makes me angry at your husband.[/quote]

Same. My DH may not see clothes on the floor or the dishwasher to be unloaded but he saw what I went through during delivery and postpartum and let me set the pace, even if it meant reduced or non-existent intimacy. I refused to have uncomfortable/unenjoyable sex before pregnancy and I sure wasnt going to placate afterwards when dealing with PF trauma and PPA a colicky baby and no sleep. It took me almost 2 years to [i]desire[/i] PIV sex again. 5 years post partum and we are having more frequent sex than ever and better sex (multiple O's or back to back sessions).

Unfortunately, many women experience the quiet coercion of "if he doesnt get what he needs, he will get it from someone else". I 100% told him that if his sexual needs- specifically PIV- were more important than my mental/physical/emotional safety then the choice was already made. I was doing everything I could to heal and we were doing non-PIV activities but I cant make it go faster and I refuse to "grin and bear it". How can sex be enjoyable for someone when the other person is in pain/has no interest/feels worse afterward? That's gross and is too close to sexual assault IMO.

And the fact is that for some women its 3 weeks post delivery all the way through years after delivery. We dont have enough research or support in this area and women 100% bear the burden of it.

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