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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Near 4th degree tear here with pelvic floor muscle trauma. We did not try until 7 months and it was agony. I’ve done years of pelvic PT, estrogen cream, etc. and weaned and it never got back to “normal.” I have a huge ridge of scar tissue in my vagina from where it tore and it’s just never gotten to the point where I’m pain free. Sex irritates it and then I pay the price of discomfort and soreness for days and it can be uncomfortable to sit and walk. DH was understanding for a while that I didn’t want to have sex but after multiple years and pelvic floor therapists and not much improvement he stopped caring. I basically force myself to have sex once a week or so now mostly so I don’t end up divorced, but honestly, if it were my choice I probably would be 100 percent fine with never having PIV sec again. And yes, I’ve seen specialists and done all the things. I am sad and envious of women who had easy births and could have normal sex afterwards. I am ruined for life from mine. [/quote]

Very very sorry to hear this. All we can hope is there are advancements in medicine to treat this in the future.[/quote]

This kind of story should be openly discussed when OBs and midwives push for vaginal delivery at all costs, just to keep their hospital's C-section rate down for good ratings or whatever. I am SO sorry you're going through that, PP. If I were you, personally, I would call every urogynecology surgeon I could find and beg them to do a consult.[/quote]

Honestly I find the husband who “doesn’t care” and makes her feel like she has to have painful sex once a week to avoid divorce the actual villain in this story…[/quote]

It's pretty typical. And will painful sex be enough for him? Or will he eventually come at her with "If we're not sexually compatible, then maybe we should go our separate ways." [/quote]

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