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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Our original plan was to have dinner together at a restaurant with the kids and the highschool football intramural games (8 games total played today) ran late. He called twice - once to say he would be home too late for dinner at a restaurant and the last call asking whether I would be up. [/quote]

NP here - I'm one of those who doesn't see anything wrong with your DH wanting to delay celebrating his birthday with you so he could watch a football game.  Whether it's his birthday or not, he should be able to do that sort of thing.  You, too.  Your idea of a great birthday may be spending it with your family but not everyone feels that way and there's nothing wrong with that.

I want to point out that it was ill-advised to plan to have dinner with him later that day.  In your first post, you noted that it was a 2 hour drive to the game.  Even if there were only 1 game being played, that's still 4 hours of driving time plus the time needed for the football game.  That doesn't leave him a whole lot of time to get back for dinner.  He'd have no time to socialize with his nephew and other family - even if the game finished on time.  With those kinds of events, we just don't plan anything afterwards because you never know how long it's going to take.  I think the only reason he made those plans with you is he felt pressure from you.  He shouldn't have.  I think the lesson for both of you is that you celebrate events whenever the time is good and you don't make plans that will be difficult for you to keep.[/quote]

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