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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP - I too am dealing with infertility and a few years ahead of you. I am also dealing with resentment towards DH for not trying sooner. It takes everything in me not to hate him on a daily basis. You are not alone.[/quote]

NP and I really don’t think you should be trying to have children with someone you hate.  I’m sorry you’re dealing with infertility but that is not a healthy environment to bring a child into.[/quote]

I agree. That is why I am fighting the resentment. This is something though that you both need to be on the same page for - starting to try - and when it turns out that your fears were correct that you were going to hit the fertility cliff its difficult. There is no easy answer and its rough. Getting divorced is not a quick fix at either point and people change their minds. Relationships are tough and this person is not alone in being very frustrated that this choice was made unilaterally by her husband and is having lifelong consequences.

Example, today my DH announced that we can just do a three more rounds of IVF in 2025 when DC mandates it for health insurance. I am pretty over it but hey, it literally will not cost him any money comparatively to what we are paying now and its just me going treatments and being emotionally drained right. But if I say no then I am giving up on having a baby. So yeah, I have sympathy for this OP and its not a cakewalk. [/quote]

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