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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many many years ago I gave birth to a healthy baby girl. I gave her up for adoption. Fast forward 20+ years: I married and have a family now.  About 7 years ago, when i was newly married, my birth-child tried to contact me (through the adoption lawyer). At that time I was not in a place to think about THAT and I refused, but told the lawyer to tell the birth-child that everything is fine, we're a healthy family, I was just newly wed and not ready to have contact with her at that time.

Now I see she is on FB (i know her name). Should I send a FB msg saying I am ready/willing to talk/answer questions now- or when she is ready? Or is that too weird? She's in her late 20s now.

PS the adoption attorney has since passed away and the office is closed.[/quote]

No, you should not. She has her life now so leave her alone.  If you have IMPORTANT medical information, then contact an attorney and let Atty. send info to her.  Leave her alone.[/quote]

Adoptive Mom here:  Why on earth not?  I understand that different people have different feelings about birth parents initiating contact, but in this case where the child has clearly indicated that they wanted contact?  Why wouldn't it be OK for a birth mother to reach out.

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