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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just have your DH say, 'it doesn't work for us' and put it behind you.

I'm 58 and out of F*&ks to give.  I'm so tired of women expecting other women to 'be the bigger person', 'do it for family', 'if you don't do it/want to do it, you clearly hate them'.  I'm tired of being expected to put in extra effort, to, once again, suppress my wants/needs to accommodate someone else's.  I don't blame OP and her DH for being miffed about this request.  It reeks of being used.

Relationships need to be reciprocal and, clearly, this one isn't.  So many of you are reading more into it than is there or hoping for an outcome that is unlikely.  This isn't about building family relationships.  It's about free childcare. If OP and her DH were interested in providing childcare, they'd at least get paid for it.

I get that I'm probably older than most on DCUM and have had more years to experience this, more years to get fed up and be done with it.  It took me a long time to feel strong enough to reject the pressure to 'be nice', to conform.  Life is too short to invest time in the schemes of users.  I suspect the annoyance I hear in OP's posts is a reflection of cognitivie dissonance.  She feels pressure to conform but is resentful because she knows she's being used. 
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Op here. 100% nailed it, I wish we could be friends because you get it.[/quote]

2 insane people found each other[/quote]

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