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[quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced because of cheating.  I will never look at my dad and his wife as fully good people.  Even though I love them very much.  I like them very much - choose to spend a great deal of time with them.  But when they start opining about politics and morality I just want to laugh in their faces.  Sometimes I want to ask my stepmom, "So you do know that you destroyed my family, right?  That my childhood was a misery because we all knew about you?  That my mother was an INSANE person for years because of what the two of you did?"  This is a woman who knew us, had been in our home, had met me and my mom many times.

I lost my husband to cheating.  I will never think of him as a good person.  It's not just the disgusting sex stuff I found (Emails) but everything that went into sustaining the affair.  The lying, sneaking, telling my I was the one who was crazy, something was wrong with me, I was paranoid.... when of course the whole time I was right.

Now I am an adult and a married man is pursuing me.  Typical "we have no connection, we don't have sex, we have grown apart".... the kids are grown and gone and I have to say I am very tempted.  I have a great deal of admiration and respect for this man - except for the fact that I think he wants to cheat on his wife.  It does make me question my beliefs about him.

What I have learned in my life of experience with cheating - relationships are complicated.  People are very flawed.  The depths of emotional and sexual need in people are unfathomable.  People are weak.  The one thing I truly think is wrong is destroying your family when you have young children, however you do the destroying - drinking, cheating, pick your poison.  When you have young kids you put your needs LAST.  But that attitude didn't get me very far with my now ex husband clearly!  [/quote]

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