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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted a few months ago about my son's looming graduation. Now he is home and moping around. He finally opened up that feels like an idiot, he's overwhelmed and he's humiliated compared to all of his overachieving classmates. He's scared to ask his more connected friends (and their parents) for help because his resume is so vacant and they seem so perfect. He knows he can apply for random entry-level jobs any random college grad can apply for but he feels like he has wasted the opportunity if he settles for anything. He does not mean that in a snobby way–we are just a middle class family–but I also know how that could come across. It was a very expensive education and the opportunity of a lifetime. Any help in coaxing him out of this funk and where he should be looking is appreciated. Should he contact career services at his alma mater or would reaching out to his network of friends and their parents offer far more opportunities?

I want to stress his resume is basically vacant outside of the new BA and his GPA is pretty abysmal, so he thinks he's going to be mocked or his resume will just be ignored.[/quote]

Not to be rude, but a huge part of the problem here seems to be that both you and he think there's something really special or different about getting a job out of an Ivy League school than any other school. Sure, there are differences, but get over it.

Yes, he should absolutely contact his career services office.[/quote]

How many 22 year old Ivy League graduates are minted each year? It is pretty rarefied air and some employers do actually pay a hefty premium to employ them.[/quote]

This kind of stupid attitude is how he ended up where he is. [/quote]

No, pandemic-fueled depression and anxiety led to this.[/quote]

Pandemic fueled depression and anxiety led to a less than stellar college career at his Ivy. Continuing to wallow/fixate on all the successful things his fellow grads are doing is causing his problem right now.

I was the one that posted that part of the problem is both his and his mother's fixation on the Ivy degree. He should 100% mine every resource he can as a result of attending his school, but even at an Ivy league school someone has to be at the bottom of the class. After our first finals in law school, when some people were convinced their careers were over before they started, our property professor told the story of "Old 65" - a guy who had barely graduated law school, but became a great litigator and respected member/leader in the local Bar association. A career is made over many years. It's not the first job out of college. [/quote]

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