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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who need other people often have stronger social networks by necessity. People who give each other rides home from work,
watch each others kids, help each other move, loan a pick up truck, etc. When you don’t have a lot of money, you develop an informal economy where you barter for services.

Who do you hear worrying or complaining about childcare, days of school, etc? It’s often UMC moms because they don’t have a network of people to help out. When I was a kid, I didn’t go to extended day. My mom paid a stay at home mom on our street a small amount to walk me to the bus with her own kids each morning. We also lived in a place where the dentist, the woman who cleaned our house, our mechanic, the manager of a local restaurant we frequented - all were parents of kids at my school.

I am now in a position that I can pay for a lot of services. I don’t know the women who clean my house. I don’t know where my hairdresser or dentist live. I don’t need to - nor is it considered rude that I don’t know their kids names. I am friendly and connected to my neighbors, my coworkers, parents at my kids school or their activities and sports teams. I am not outgoing with people outside those groups. I like to think I am courteous and polite, but I am not asking your dog’s name or trying to figure out if your grandmother went to high school with my uncle. 
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How interesting! It is this exact phenomenon because of which UMC people have their own little subculture if you will. They feel they do not need to extend basic social curtesy to people around them as they can pay for the services they need. There is no need for unnecessary socializing.

How fascinating [/quote]

DP here.  I found this (bartering amongst poorer people) to be true in the DC/MD/VA area.

In other areas, UMC people are friendly to each other. If you come from an area like this, and you move to this area, the social norms in this area tend to not make sense to you, and you are left wondering "what's their problem, they have nothing to be snobby about".  People from certain areas tend to think that UMC in this area are the clowns - easily impressed (with themselves). [/quote]

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