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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Sorry, but it just won't work for us this time."

"Why?"

"Oh, I don't want to get into it, but suffice it to say it's just not going to work."

"Oh, come on, tell me...."

"Like I said, I don't want to get into the details, but I hope you have a good trip.  Hey, I've got to finish dinner.  Have a good night!"

The magical phrase here: "I don't want to get into it."  It implies there's an issue, but you don't let them peek at the details and try to "solve" it for you.  My MIL is a solver like that.  I let DH handle her at all times.  But, if this is your family, you've got to suck it up and do it yourself.[/quote]

The next thing that could happen  "so did you hear Bob and Susie don't want us to stay at their house when they are away?  I wonder if they are having problems in their marriage?" Just say, as PP have suggested - it's not going to work this time.  If they press it, be direct and give them the reasons you stated, don't be passive aggressive about this.[/quote]

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