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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a relatively brief, extremely stupid emotional affair which I ended.  I was so so lucky that I had a therapist who firmly and kindly told me I should block my EAP (are therapists even supposed to do that?), and she possibly saved both of our families and saved me from progressing to a full on physical affair with this man.

I can totally relate to how OP is feeling- the validation you get from an AP is ridiculously addictive and losing it is such a crash.  I can also understand how she is so disengaged from the harm the affair did- to the spouses, kids, etc.  If the wife contacting you did not snap you back to reality, OP, I'm not sure what will. 
 
OP I speak from experience when I say that you will not feel ok for a long time, and that is the result of your actions.  And don't worry, you would have felt a similar type of withdrawal even if you were the one doing the dumping.  What's important is that you never contact this man again regardless of your feelings.  It was wrong, you know it was wrong, and it is time to start working on yourself and fixing what you have broken, which is mostly yourself and your marriage.[/quote]

Thank you. I’m trying my best today. It’s only day 2. I just want this pain to be gone, as selfish as that sounds. I feel disgusting. I feel like I’ve suddenly lost a best friend.[/quote]

I understand and I felt the same.  It's not going to be gone for awhile.  You built an intense and totally inappropriate bond with this person, and now the only thing you can do is never contact him ever again.  I felt probably a fraction of what you feel and it was absolutely awful.[/quote]

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