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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, this is our story and my gripe. 3 years into our school, I've given up.

The "playdates" are class bday parties or after school programs.

It totally dumbfounds me. There are many playdates I've arranged and with no/low reciprocation, like OP.

The girls seems to do better than the boys re playdates, who go sport to sport.

So neighborhood, church, pool, and camp friends are the playdates, not the classmates. And yeah, concur makes public compelling.

Guessing a post COVID thing?[/quote]

Sounds like there are a lot of sporty boys in your child’s class. Sporty boys have tight schedules. They become close teammates and may have more get togethers on that front, especially if they’re in travel sports and play dates happen in before, after or in between distant games in, for example, Richmond or Annapolis. Also many sporty boys can be hyperaggressive and annoying to host.

Don’t take it personally but if you think you can find a better dynamic elsewhere, worth checking around.[/quote]

This is the dynamic at our school as well. Also, as they get a little older (think 1st or 2nd grade), this really gets entrenched. You see friends at sports, at sports camp, at the pool, at after-school enrichments. Every once in awhile there's a "playdate" (though even that is often a meetup at the playground to kick the soccer ball or something), but the schedules get really tight. As a parent of boys, I don't love how all-encompassing the sports schedules get so young, but it's either that or they don't play the sport, sadly. I certainly wouldn't chalk it up to lack of charisma. Things are just really busy, family time is precious, and extra-curriculars are really the "playdates." [/quote]

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