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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD just had her last day of K and I just found out ( bc one of DD’s friend moms posted pics on Facebook) that the moms of the group of 4 or 5 girls that DD became good friends with from her class arranged an after school get together with all the girls except for my daughter. And there’s no other reason I can find for this other than the fact that I’m not part of the Mom clique. I’ve arranged lots of play dates with these girls over the year and DD has been invited over to most of their houses as well, so I don’t think it’s a matter of them unintentionally excluding her.

It just makes me so mad and I can’t wait until DD is old enough to where the Moms aren’t so influential and involved in the social lives of their kids. Thank god DD is still clueless to these kinds of things, but I know that won’t last forever too. It just makes me feel terrible because she has been talking about having these girls over for a group playdate this summer and she’s clueless to the fact that she’s getting left out by the Moms.[/quote]

I'm sorry this happened, OP. It sounds like your daughter is close enough friends with these girls that their moms should have thought to include your DD. And I think they also should not be posting it all over social media, that's just bound to make someone feel left out. I'm very against 'mean mom' culture and mom cliques and I try hard not to let myself be sucked into that. I see it all around me at our elementary school, with my 2nd grader and my kindergartner both.

However, I do want to propose a possible reason: maybe all the moms of the other girls in the friend group were already friends before k started or are friends through another activity they all do? I have a daughter also finishing up K right now. She went into K with 3 close girl friends who were all in her small preschool class last year and all live very close to us in our neighborhood so I was already close with those 3 girls' moms before K even started. It's possible someone who didn't go to our preschool or doesn't live in our neighborhood might have seen us talking at school pick up or see our daughters going home from school with each other for play dates and feel left out. I would hate to think that another kid or their parents felt left out. I tried to make sure I talked to other parents at pick up and not only my mom friends. I tried to encourage my daughter to make new friends and invite new friends over. But my daughter is very shy and it's just a lot easier for her to stick w/ her preschool friends. It's hard for her to branch out with new people. We're working on it and I'm still encouraging it but it's a slow process for a shy kid.

We are trying to be inclusive and friendly to others and make new friends. We invited all the girls from her K class to her bday party in an effort to get to know the girls and their parents better. But I have to admit that if I'm trying to arrange a more casual get together, especially if it's kind of last minute, for my daughter, it's obviously a lot easier to just send a group text to the 3 moms I already know well enough to know their family schedules/activities somewhat so I can better predict when would be a good date/time/place to meet up. This is not to intentionally leave other kids out. It's just easier to continue an ongoing group text chain w/ moms I know well who all live within a few blocks of us. Simple as that.[/quote]

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