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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do watch Succession and there are some things that I see in her with Shiv. She isn’t entitled like Shiv, just very angry and I would say emotionally manipulative (like Shiv).

What led to the yelling was we were talking about a HS friend, Larla, and DD mentioned she now has a serious BF. I know Larla bc the kids grew up together and her parents still live down the street. I said, “oh, right, I saw Larla’s mom the other day, and she mentioned Larla has a BF and they are coming to stay for a week.” DD started saying why was I up in everyone’s business. I explained we literally ran into each other walking the dogs, which happens on occasion, and we usually stop and chat for a few min., and she happened to mention Larla’s BF and their visit. I didn’t ask for info, the mom volunteered it. She then backtracked to a time when a kid had party at her house when the kids were 14 or 15. I heard the parents were away. I said DD couldn’t go unless there was an adult there. Some kid got really drunk and the kids ended up terrified and called an ambulance, and no there were no adults. I didn’t rub it in her face, I didn’t even say anything about it to her about it. Then it pingponged to other things, like the time she was a boyfriend at 16 and I said bedroom and family room doors have to remain open when he visits. Basically I think she has a problem with any boundaries we set, and is under the impression good parents set none because good parents let their kids do whatever they want.

I don’t get it. The other kids might grumble about boundaries we set, but they never flipped out or held grudges. [/quote]

This does not sound like the "horrible, insulting" things you mentioned in your first post.  This is jsut basic adolescent whining.  You ignore this.  What she says "you're always in everybody's business" you DROP THE ROPE and just say "hmm" and then eventually say "I love you sweetie" and walk away while she tirades.  She's just venting frustration.  Now, is it weird at 22, yes.  But it's most likely because she feels you've never really listened to her and you are arguing silly points like "I saw her while walking the dog".  You don't need to counterpoint her every accusation.  It's ok to just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and let it drop.

I also can't believe this conversation has led you to think you are done with your daughter.  WTF.  You need some therapy too, because if my mom threatened to never speak to me again because I was a little jerk one day, I would be emotionally unstable too.[/quote]

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