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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have regular sitters and try to go out at least once a week as a couple.

Most people I meet seem only interested in socializing as a family.  [b]I rarely meet a couple or woman who is open to getting together without kids.  It makes me feel strange that I seem to have this desire for independence that other women don’t seem to have.  When I go out with adults I also don’t feel the need to talk about kids.  [/b]

The other day I got together with a mom and her child and found out the mom of a 7 year old has never had a babysitter.  What?!  I can’t fathom this and don’t understand how this happens.  It’s not a financial thing.  I do think there are a lot of women living like this these days and perhaps it’s anxiety.

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Are you hanging out with SAHMs? In my friend group (which includes friends from high school, college, jobs, and neighborhood), we all work, and we all take time away from our kids. My high school and college friends aren't local so we travel to see each other 4 times a year. Professional and neighborhood friends we do dinners, weekend activities, trips, etc. Only one of these friends doesn't work, and she's the one who is always the hardest to make plans with. Maybe it's a coincidence.[/quote]

Many times SAHPs don't have built-in childcare like working parents do. When I worked full-time I had a nanny so if I wanted to go to happy hour or dinner I could just text my nanny to see if she could stay longer. If I needed to travel for work the routine didn't really change because my husband could handle mornings and evenings (and I could still ask the nanny to come early or stay late if my husband also had a work dinner or meeting). But when I became a SAHP last minute invites were much harder because I had to find childcare. I've adjusted and try to keep a list of 4-6 babysitters on file for when I need someone but my kids are older now and have activities which means I would often need someone who could handle pickup and dropoff. If I had an au pair or nanny that person would already be comfortable doing those things. [/quote]
I'm a working parent and we don't have "built-in childcare" outside of working hours. We've got a home daycare for our youngest, and preschool and an afterschool program for our oldest. None of those are available when we want to have a date night or go out on the weekends. Sure, working parents who can afford a nanny or an au pair might have more flexibility, but that's hardly all (or even most) working parents.[/quote]

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