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I have seen so many fights over inheritance. My mother and her siblings were locked in a 25 year court battle over their father's will because their brother stole his sisters' inheritance. My BIL is making jealous noises over my MIL's plan for her inheritance, because he's not happy his two brothers will get more, for various reasons that MIL has spelled out clearly and in advance.

And here I am, with one child with special needs who might have difficulty getting or keeping jobs, and one highly-functional child. I am tempted to divide my estate equally between them, just because no matter how I explain it, the child who has less might always feel slighted. Also because I don't know what the future will bring to either one. But it will also depend on how my child with SN grows up and how functional he gets.

The best I can do is work on our family bond, and make sure they appreciate one another, so that if ever one needs help after I'm gone, the other will be OK stepping in.
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I would hope if you have raised the non-special needs kid well, they will understand the SN sibling requires more from you.  They should recognized low lucky they are to not have these obstacles in life.  And also happy you have $$$ to leave for care of the SN kids, so sibling is not fully responsible [/quote]

My friend has a profoundly autistic younger sibling that she will be completely responsible for when her mother dies (father is already deceased). Safe to say she would be thrilled if her mom left sister every penny if there was any hope it would cover sister’s care.

And since my friend is 10 years older than her sister this may well be a burden her kids inherit.

People on DCUM are never failing to count their blessings. [/quote]
Wow - parents should’ve planned better. Not fair to place the burden entirely on the older sister. [/quote]

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