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I have seen so many fights over inheritance. My mother and her siblings were locked in a 25 year court battle over their father's will because their brother stole his sisters' inheritance. My BIL is making jealous noises over my MIL's plan for her inheritance, because he's not happy his two brothers will get more, for various reasons that MIL has spelled out clearly and in advance.

And here I am, with one child with special needs who might have difficulty getting or keeping jobs, and one highly-functional child. I am tempted to divide my estate equally between them, just because no matter how I explain it, the child who has less might always feel slighted. Also because I don't know what the future will bring to either one. But it will also depend on how my child with SN grows up and how functional he gets.

[b]The best I can do is work on our family bond, and make sure they appreciate one another, so that if ever one needs help after I'm gone, the other will be OK stepping in.[/b]
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Your legacy will be that you are considered a good parent, because you were a fair parent.  After you are gone, you will be remembered fondly. Parents who refuse to be fair, set their children up for fighting after the parent is gone, and a legacy of unfairness - which can easily be construed (accurately or not) as bad parenting.

I know parents that left their money distributed unequally when they passed, and it tends to not end well for the grown children left behind. There is rarely enough justification for being unequal.  [/quote]

There are justifications a
For some.

My parents owe me mid 6 figures that I “loaned them” so they can live in the retirement center they desire.  Will states I get that back with low interest first then all is split as that’s what parents want.   Ultimately it will be up to me whether I claim the repayment.

Sibling knows this and is not happy.  Because most likely there will be nothing left for them, I likely won’t even get my “loan” returned.  I don’t care.   We were giving it because we can not for repayment

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This is just proof that some jerks will let their parents’ memory be tarnished no matter how fair the division of assets really is.

You can’t control how other people react. That’s their job. You can only do what you think is right. [/quote]

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