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[quote=Anonymous]Not an appropriate parent response.

1.  Learn about activities.  Do not carry 20 year old experiences and ideas forward.  Take the time to figure things out.  What is going on.  What are options.  What are likely requirements and expectations.  
2.  Kids change over time.  My daughter had a soccer coach along the way who told us parents that the best kids at 9 are not the best at 13, and the ones who are good at 13 are not the best at 18.  Why?  Obvious really -- puberty and interest.
3.  My kid is not athletic?  Meaning what?  Can they get into decent condition?  Can they run 2 miles?  No?  Get them running - chart a course that is 2 miles start to finish and get her running/walking.  Join her sometimes.  Can she do 100 sit ups?  No?  100 sit ups every day.  Not 500, not 2 hours of weight training.  100 sit ups and 100 push ups.  2 miles of run/walk every day.  No special equipment.  No significant hours a day.   In a month it will be easy.  By the end of august it will be quick.

4.  middle school volleyball sucks.  No one is any good.  So and so plays volleyball for xyz.  So what?  Volleyball is just getting started at 13.  It makes it a good sport to start with as you are not way behind.

5.  Pay the neighbor to help train.  Set up 2 one hour sessions a week.  Mostly she will need hitting form and service form.  By August she will be reasonably competent - as good as kids with a season of 13 year old volleyball behind them.

Will she make the team?  Maybe.  Maybe you are at the one secret middle school where all future volleyball players go to debut.  Doubtful

What you and your kid will learn this summer is that everything she does in terms of school participation from now on requires actual practice and some actual work.  Those are good things to learn.  Want to be in a school play?  Can you sing, dance, act?  Don't you think the kids who do that are likely going to show up for auditions?  Get on it.

Talk to parents of kids in the high school.  Who are they getting instruction from?  What teams are they playing on?  Stuff does not magically happen.

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