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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You let her do it.  She'll be rejected endlessly in life.  Best to learn how to deal with it and build resilience while you're young. [/quote]
I know you are right, but it hurts so much!

I faced rejection in school around her age and I’m 40 and it still stings like it was yesterday! Kids are so cruel. It just feels like I’m sending her into a battle she doesn’t need to fight. [/quote]

She’s not even in Jr High! She needs to experience disappointment and negative outcomes now and learn resilience. Try listening to the podcast The Happiness Lab. The Yale professor who studies happiness says that lifelong happiness is not about never experiencing negative emotions, it’s about experiencing negative things and knowing how to recover. You are doing your child a disservice by protecting her that severely. 
What would hurt more? Your MOM telling you that you're not good enough, or a coach/teacher/peer?  Don't be your kid's bully, OP. [/quote][/quote]

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