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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, I totally relate to OP and know people are trying to help but… this whole “no one is thinking about you!” thing is just NOT true. Have you people never heard a friend or acquaintance talking about their impressions of people (even relative strangers) after an event or even *gasp* done this yourself. Yes, yes you have. But that doesn’t mean OP can’t move on. OP, yeah, it’s possible someone thought you were awkward and said something like, “so-and-so’s wife seems like a weirdo, don’t you agree?” But that’s life.[/quote]

+1, all true. I also think it's weird when people say "no one is thinking about you!" or "no one cares about you!" to try and make someone who is anxious about having made a bad impression feel better. Because most people don't want to make NO impression, they just don't want to be disliked.

Obviously the key is to learn to move on more easily when it feels like you didn't mesh with people. Something I'm working on is just thinking "their loss." Because it is their loss! I try to approach social interactions with other people with the hopes of at least having a pleasant conversation, if not making a friend. When other people are shut down to that, they are just making their own lives less pleasant.

I regularly have an easier time talking to strangers with whom I have nothing in common than with people I have some connection to (kids in same school, neighbors, coworkers) because I think so many people approach the latter interactions with weird walls up that make it hard to connect.[/quote]

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