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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your SIL doesn’t actually want to visit and is being difficult because she thinks you are somehow making her visit, when in reality she is being manipulated by her mother. 
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Dollars to donuts, I’d bet your MIL/FIL is telling your SIL she is invited and has to visit and then your SIL is cranky about crappy accommodations.

Have your DH text your MIL, FIL, and SIL on the same text chain and say he didn’t invite SIL and there’s no room for SIL, she can stay at a hotel if she’d like, but the two of you aren’t hosting her. [/quote]

Don't you or your DH say any of that. Just say you can't make any specific accommodations and if she needs more it's better she book a hotel [/quote]

OP here - already offered the hotel route. MIL arrived this week and when we picked her up from the airport we suggested a hotel and provided info on coworking spaces.  Obviously this was not good enough as my MIL has spent today rearranging my office to make space for my SIL.  My DH has no relationship with this sister - 8 year age gap - and she is 0 factor in his military career.  DH left home at 18 and has never lived closer than 1500 miles to home. SIL interloping on our family events has gotten markedly worse the older she gets.  We only see ILs once or twice a year.  I just got some good wine and chocolate that I am hiding. [/quote]

Then you are too pathetic to help. I hope you have a miserable time, you deserve it. No one—but no one—stays overnight in my home uninvited. They wouldn’t cross the threshold. You are a doormat, but don’t complain: you are the one who laid down. Weak people deserve to be kicked around. Grow a spine.[/quote]

Family members don’t count for “invites.” When you invite my parents, I’m allowed to come along too.[/quote]

Hahaha, stunted spinster/sullen teenager. Nope! When I invite people to my house, it is grown, independent, fully functional adults only. No clingers, no arrested development losers. You aren’t invited to my house and never will be.[/quote]

Nope, our family is a package deal.

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So this SIL should be willing to host Op, Op's dh and their 5 children?  I'll bet not.  The problem with this "package deal" stuff is that it is usually very one sided.[/quote]

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