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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I have always had a very strong sense of self - I heard this so many times when I was a kid. It wasn’t a direct “I regret you,” but it was always telling other people in front of my siblings and I that they should never have kids etc. It annoyed and embarrassed me but didn’t phase me. That said, now I’m a parent I only say things that make my children know they are loved and wanted. I never want to be parented like I was - because there was some verbal abuse and today would also be considered physical abuse. I think there is a Reddit sub for people who regret having kids as an anonymous space to discuss their honest feelings, so their children don’t have to know about it.[/quote]

Just so you know -- I wouldn't advise someone "don't have kids" in front of my kid -- but a lot of times, it is more about a lack of US support systems than about the kids or even about feelings toward parenthood. During COVID for example parents felt totally abandoned as they scrambled to care for their kids and work. During normal times the cost of childcare is prohibitive for many. Lots of people live super far from their own families, who may otherwise have helped with childcare. I advise people not to have kids because it's a raw f***ing deal with no support for parents in society.[/quote]

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