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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I had an emotional discussion a few months ago and he set out the case for why he thinks 3 would be terrible, but then told me that if I really want 3 (like I would regret it forever if we didn't), we could make it happen...[/quote]
What a great DH you have. That's almost the opposite situation of my DH and me, where DH says he'll regret it forever if we stop at 2, but I don't want to go through with having a 3rd just because of his desire alone. Maybe I would feel differently if I weren't the one getting pregnant, giving birth, and breastfeeding.

[quote=Anonymous]I still get sad or jealous when I see others with 3 kids (I feel like it's almost a status symbol among professional women now), but I'm also anxious, high strung, hated being pregnant etc.[/quote]
How do you feel that having 3 kids is a status symbol for professional women? Is it because it proves that the women can juggle 3 kids along with a demanding career? Or is it more about the families being able to afford 3 kids (and 3 college tuitions)? I ask because I have a professional career now, but I think I would quit to be a SAHM if I were to go for a 3rd. Mostly for my sanity. I don't know how families manage 3 kids and 2 full-time jobs, unless the grandparents are living in the same house.

[quote=Anonymous]I had too many moms of three tell me quietly but honestly that while they love their third kid, they wish they had stopped at two.[/quote]
Did they explain why? Is the 3rd kid more work from a personality-perspective, or is it more the juggling of 3 kids? Have they felt they made too many personal sacrifices to care for so many kids, such as stepping back in their careers, hobbies, or social life? I met a new mom of 3, and she said they saved the best for last. She was almost going to forgo a 3rd because of her high-strung 2nd child, but was really happy with her family of 5. A part of me is also worried about ruining my body further with a 3rd pregnancy and round of breastfeeding.[/quote]

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