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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I felt that way after my second at 34. I always wondered what if? My husband didn’t really want a third, but said he would support what I wanted to do. But I was always hesitant to pull the trigger on a third. I was enjoying my second child without having to worry about another pregnancy! It was nice. Now I’m 44 and too old. I am glad we just have two. It is easier. I do get pangs at times when I see larger families but then I remember I am more high strung, I like calm, and our finances wouldn’t have supported a third. Two kids is right for our family. [/quote]

Similar boat here. It's hard because we always said "2 or 3," but in end, you can only have a fixed whole number of kids. I'm almost 38 and had my 2nd at 30. DH and I had an emotional discussion a few months ago and he set out the case for why he thinks 3 would be terrible, but then told me that if I really want 3 (like I would regret it forever if we didn't), we could make it happen... I just keep thinking that if something went wrong with another pregnancy or with the kid, I'd feel like I was responsible in some way, because he doesn't want 3. Whereas we had both agreed on having the first 2. And it's true that having 2 with almost no family support and 2 full time jobs is challenging, to say the least. I still get sad or jealous when I see others with 3 kids (I feel like it's almost a status symbol among professional women now), but I'm also anxious, high strung, hated being pregnant etc. (I actually blame myself that I wasn't more relaxed during the first 2 pregnancies and early childhoods- maybe that would have put my DH more at ease about 3. 2 is still excellent though!)[/quote]

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