Reply to Unexpected conversations

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Unexpected conversations "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m really confused.  Why is the best friend’s mom even involved in this and why is she saying “leave the other girl out of it.” It is a face your daughter (allegedly) made at the other girl, and her daughter is the that has nothing to do with this as well as her mom.

Does your daughter even see this other girl anymore? So they all go to school together? Personally I wouldn’t want my DD to be friends with either girls.  They both sound mentally troubled 
[/quote]
I think OP talked to the mom to get the other girl’s info so her DD can apologize. Does DD feel eke needs to apologize? It’s unclear whether she thinks sue was wrong or is just being bullied by her friend. I am one of the people posting that the friendship has run its course but if your daughter is really determined to try to salvage it,[b] I would suggest she write an apology [/b]to be delivered by best friend to the other girl and then tell best friend that she has apologized and is done talking about this situation. Better to move on with other friends, but I know DD may not be receptive to this. If DD is not receptive to ending bad friendship, start talking to her about what she thinks makes good friends and good relationships so she can figure out if this best friend is just bad news for her.[/quote]

[b]Absolutely not. I think with a written apology, the most likely thing to happen in this situation is that they still tell her it's not enough and then it will get quoted out of context, shared in social media, and blow up the thing even further out of proportion than it already is.[/b]

The friendship is over, much as OP's DD may try and try. The so-called BF is totally out of line and has crossed over into bullying. OP should talk with DD about how BF is not being a good friend. Good friends give each other grace. Maybe she did "make a face", who knows, but in that case a real BF might raise the issue, accept the apology and move on for goodness sake. This has been going on for months.[/quote]

This! Do NOT have your daughter put anything in writing. Especially nothing admitting fault. That will just haunt her and give the other girls something tangible to basically blackmail her with.

Honestly best friend and the other girl sound terrible. They’re making your DD feel way too bad about what should have maybe been a 30 second issue. The whole concept of dating grossed me out still at 11. I’d probably have made a face too. [/quote]

Do not write a letter.

Nothing will get the nasty BFF now frenemy to back down. Apologies don’t work for bad agents; it further fuels their attacking.

Sorry but their (friend, possibly the mother) behavior is exactly that: nasty [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics