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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of these posts are really unhinged - accusing the OP's husband of past wrongdoing, calling the school counselor, going scorched earth. It's a mean text, not attempted murder.

Anyway, with all respect to those that have faced this terrible situation, I think the texter's mom should know and OP should get someone to cover her carpool shifts (I would not leave the other mom in the lurch) and that it's not a great idea for Larla to come over unless she wants to talk about what happened and apologize.

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OP is definitely not responsible for finding someone to cover the carpool shifts. I don’t know how OP can avoid telling her neighbor what happened since she has to stop carpooling, but if you call my kid “fat” and a “slut” I’m not coming up with a solution for getting the kid that called her those things to practice. [/quote]

Yes, we know: You want the Facebook back-pat kudos for dropping off a casserole, you didn’t actual want to be exposed to grief-grief — the real life kind, which is ugly and messy and hard.

OP isn’t responsible for finding carpool cover - but it would be an act of grace and compassion to the family, an acknowledgment that there are bigger factors in play than just a kid being rude.

Here’s how she could talk to neighbor:

Carpool mom: Larla and OtherLarla hit a really rough patch in their relationship. I’m going to need to keep them apart for a bit. XXX is going to take carpool (or I will ask around who else could take).

Neighbor: What was the rough patch?

Carpool mom: Called her fat and slut. I know OtherLarla is understandably in a tough place, and I’m sure they’ll figure it out.

See?

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