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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t show your brother you are hurt. It’s great that he chooses to involve you - hopefully no evil plans on his part. Help him execute - keep an eye on stuff and make sure you get what’s yours. 
They are 80, they may have had all sorts of ideas like “a man should be doing this”. 
Just display your readiness to help him, leave the most laborious stuff to him and keep an eye on things. It could be worse![/quote]

This is a tough one because OP I get where you are coming from.. but I agree with the quoted poster. You don’t know why your parents chose what they did, and it isn’t your brothers fault they did.

Maybe it’s because they 
Recognized you already do a lot for them, and wanted to “spread the burden” if they’re worried that they are a burden.

Other times, it’s just gender stereotypes as a PP suggested. I’m a female only child who isn’t married. My dad got a terminal diagnosis during the pandemic (so we couldn’t have a lot of people on and out of their house) and we had to bring a hospital bed in for him. He asked “where are the big guys” when my girlfriends (one of whom got under the bed with socket wrenches) and I were there to set it up.

It does suck b/c of how it makes you feel - but it’s really not about you - and it’s probably not even poorly intentioned on their part. [/quote]

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