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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi Op - it doesn’t sound like our situations are identical but perhaps they are similar.  In my case, my parents also picked my brother for all tasks, and he is both closer geographically and more favored.  I am the eldest child/daughter and arguably more responsible, but we’re both responsible enough.  It did bother me because for example, I am the lawyer in the family and my brother would make jokes about throwing everything in a dumpster when they pass.  (My folks are not like hoarders but they don’t sort anything; I’d like to save photos etc.).  In my case, I had a little time and realized this choice was complicating the relationship with my brother.  I approached my parents nicely and noted how much I cared about things being done right and they made me the executor.  Things feel more equitably split to me now.  It took a while for me to approach without too much emotion, and you may not have that time, but since it was sort of thoughtlessness on their part it was OK for them to switch it.[/quote]

PS in my case I was truly motivated by not wanting to poison the relationship with my brother, even if he didn’t see anything wrong with accepting all the duties/honors without consulting anyone.  We also have a this sibling.  I just feel after they are gone, I don’t want to feel it went sour because they picked favorites in a hurtful way that impacts us.  I don’t know that the third sibling thinks about this at all.[/quote]

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