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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry op, these responses are awful! Posters are berating you for your requests saying cleaning is not a big deal but also how dare you demand he spend the day cleaning (never mind that you've spent your Saturdays cleaning alone).[b] This culture is so harsh on moms. [/b]It should be possible for you to ask for your dh to do this for one weekend when he's supposed to help you every weekend. If it were me I would say go but no fishing for the next 6 weeks and he cleans on his own the next 4 Saturdays to make up for this. [/quote]

It sure is. I am from another culture.  There is no way that I would have let my DH, myself and my kid, miss out on being with our relatives and family member. I see myself as the person who is more deliberate about strengthening the family connections.  OP, in your shoes - we all would go as a family and think of it as a daytrip. DH and I would make a few casseroles, buy some flowers from costco, and take lots of pictures and then post it on our family group.

However, what about the cleaning of the house? That is important too. I have always had a cleaning service (we are middle class) as a working woman and now as a SAHM, so that is certainly an option.  But, if you don't have a cleaning service, you all need to either pitch in on Sunday for an hour or so, or let it slide for a day. It is really not that deep.

I really think that the idea of Mother's Day is a great idea but it is an acknowledgement of your role.  It is not that you get to become the queen of the world for that day. Same goes for Father's Day. Same for Valentine's Day. Same for birthdays and wedding anniversaries.

As an adult with some agency, what is preventing you from treating yourself? Get a manicure, a facial, a piece of jewellary etc.  It does not have to be on Mother's Day.  But you know that, right?  It is a made up day.  [/quote]

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