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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP — I wanted to thank everyone for the advice.

I brought up alternative living situations and she had a fit and claimed I was making it up that she had said she didn’t want to be with us. This is her way of avoiding taking responsibility. I told her we can go visit the places that interest her most and she said…

No.

She just refused.

I said she doesn’t have a choice anymore and she went into this whole thing about how I am no longer her daughter and how horrible I am to throw her out on the street after all she’s done for me, etc.

She then told me to shut up and not mention it again.

I don’t know what I am going to do. Or how to even get her out. It’s not like we can hogtie her and drop her off at one of these places.

I said to her at one point, “my obligation is to my DCs and DH, not to you”

She got so angry she balled up her fists and shook them.

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you need to work with the local agency on aging. they will let you know what services are available, and they can in fact virtually hogtie her and send her to the hospital for evaluation, especially if you can document the abuse. i don't think you've mentioned what the financial situation is-- does she have funds? was her previous home sold/let go? if it still exists, then she can go back, and services can come in and assist her. or, after evaluation, the hospital social worker can help you find alternative living arrangements.

if nothing else, it sounds like she needs to be evaluated for a UTI, and have medication. If you don't have POA, then you literally can't make any arrangements for her, but the state can step in and make them for her.[/quote]

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