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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I've seen this complaint from dads, it's usually because Dad sees his visitation/custody time as something he "owns" and his right to control his child during that time.  He doesn't see the time as an opportunity to be part of his kid's life.

A couple years ago there was a several page thread where a Dad was mad that his daughter was on a dance team, and the team practiced on friday nights (he had every other weekend, including friday nights.)   
He didn't think his daughter should go to dance rehersal on "his" time.   Instead of seeing thisn (bringing her to rehersal) as an opportunity to be part of something she loved he saw it as his ex trying to keep him from having exclusive access to his daughter during "his" time.
Some Dad's feel if their kid happens to have any hobbies, sports, time with friends, etc. on "his" time, it's some devious plot on the part of the mom to "alienate" dad.[/quote]

This comes up so often with dads.  Are they just total narcissists who view time as something they own and control?  I don't understand the objection to a child's extracurricular activities on "his" time - why isn't it the child's time and their healthy activities take precedence over both parents' "time" - if they won't support, let the healthy parent cover the activity and resume parenting time at the conclusion of the child's activity.[/quote]

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