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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is a false sense of security to believe because you know a family well, nothing bad can happen at their house during a sleepover.

You need to have very direct and explicit conversations with your child about what is ok and what is not ok and what to do when things are not ok.

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The sleepovers have really slowed down (well, actually they've stopped) now that DS is in high school but post-pandemic in middle school, there were a lot of large group sleepovers happening because they all hadn't really seen each other.

Any parents I didn't know I got to know as best as I could leading up to those sleepovers. I also ask pointed questions that make them aware of how protective I am of my kid. "Do you have guns in your home?" "How accessible are the prescription drugs in your home?" "Are there any adults/family members visiting while the sleepover is happening?" I find that when people are asked such questions directly they are taken aback and know I am paying attention. And in most cases, they all thanked me for asking them these questions and that they'd never thought to do so when sending their kids off to a sleepover. If someone was secretly offended, oh well!

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I never understood why people ask these questions.  If I had a gun in my home, I wouldn’t tell anyone and if I didn’t have a gun, I most certainly wouldn’t TELL anyone.  If someone is so irresponsible that they’d keep drugs and guns laying around, why would you think they’d be honest and tell you about it?[/quote]

It's not about them "laying around" - I'm not asking if you have a gun thinking it's laying around, my next question would be how is it secured/do you have a gun safe?

People also have to be pretty quick on their feet to lie in an instant when they aren't expecting me to ask these sorts of questions.

If you don't want to ask people about what happens in their home while your child is there, you do you. I choose to. [/quote]

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