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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is a false sense of security to believe because you know a family well, nothing bad can happen at their house during a sleepover.

You need to have very direct and explicit conversations with your child about what is ok and what is not ok and what to do when things are not ok.

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The sleepovers have really slowed down (well, actually they've stopped) now that DS is in high school but post-pandemic in middle school, there were a lot of large group sleepovers happening because they all hadn't really seen each other.

Any parents I didn't know I got to know as best as I could leading up to those sleepovers. I also ask pointed questions that make them aware of how protective I am of my kid. "Do you have guns in your home?" "How accessible are the prescription drugs in your home?" "Are there any adults/family members visiting while the sleepover is happening?" I find that when people are asked such questions directly they are taken aback and know I am paying attention. And in most cases, they all thanked me for asking them these questions and that they'd never thought to do so when sending their kids off to a sleepover. If someone was secretly offended, oh well!

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I never understood why people ask these questions.  If I had a gun in my home, I wouldn’t tell anyone and if I didn’t have a gun, I most certainly wouldn’t TELL anyone.  If someone is so irresponsible that they’d keep drugs and guns laying around, why would you think they’d be honest and tell you about it?[/quote]

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