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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First of all it's a disease, don't blame your child and who cares what their GPA was or is.  stop with expectations.  Recovery is possible but you also have to change.  with that said this sounds just like one of our kids.  Is there substance abuse?  It sure sounds like it especially with the 
psychosis.  They need to want to get better and you have to have strong boundaries and not enable which is extremely difficult because you don't want to see a child go through this.

Seeing they are over 18 your options are limited and they will drain you of yourself without the boundaries.

Seek help for yourself if they are not going to get help, heck, even if they do get help, get some for yourself. therapy is a good things and don't shame this situation.  
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I am typing this fast and lacking sleep for days together. So I am not eloquent and may have miscommunicated. I do not care about the GPA or blame DC for the disease. I am just feeling hopeless with the lack of support system for seriously mentally unwell AC who are expected to decide about their own healthcare. Mental sick patients lack the capacity to make self-preserving decision and yet out healthcare burdens them with the decision! [b]How do parents let kids wither away?
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I am attending NAMI classes and trying to educate myself fast. Yet I find this whole situation lacking solution. Is there any experienced parents who know any other way than letting adult mentally ill child languish?[/quote]

They don't. But their hands are tied. My brother had schizophrenia w/ hallucinations and manic depression. I went through his phone after he flew off his high rise balcony to his death and found VERY disturbing things. Sigh. We tried but it was in one hospital and out in a week. In another and out in 2 weeks. He would not take the meds as he thought the demons in them were trying to control his brain. The things he typed maniacally for 3 days and nights straight were mind-blowing and straight up pulp fiction. I tried to get private help but he would not consent. He was so sweet a soul and so very intelligent but once them ind goes, it is hard. I joined NAMI and Suicide Awareness groups and realized the best "survivors" were in a residential facility as a teen (16/17) and learned coping skills, med regulation, and strategies for getting a job, keeping a job, forming healthy relationships and coping with stress. If you can get him to ever consent to a residential facility, take him immediately. I am so very sorry you are going through this. Mental illness has shredded my family up. [/quote]

I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I cannot imagine your pain.

I am not sure Dc is ready for a residential facility, but willing to try intensive therapy. I am hoping the therapist team may be able to influence DC's decision to go to that kind of a facility and make be medicine complaint. At this time we are working on getting DC to actually start therapy.[/quote]

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