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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So that they learn to handle a breakup in a supervised manner & get relationship experience. Am I the only person who feels this way?[/quote]

I will probably shock everyone even more but I would prefer my son to have sex fairly early. I believe it boosts confidence and takes the edge off so to speak. [b]It’s best if he first tries it while still in my care as I can probably make sure it’s done in a safe manner.[/b] [/quote]

How the hell will you do that? Will you be standing over them with a bullhorn, guiding and directing all of the action? Some of you people are twisted![/quote]

Well my plan is to buy condoms and have them available so that he can take them
Making sure he has somewhere to do it (being away from home at times)
Just being generally available for advice if needed, for safeguarding…
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He can get condoms at college. Even when I was in college, condoms were widely available.  If it makes you feel better, buy him a box (but if he’s not having sex yet, it might be expired when he actually gets around to using it). College kids can and will find a place for sex.  More than likely he and his college roommate will develop a system and they don’t need your supervision.  He is not going to want your advice and would probably be mortified at the thought.

Your role is to have an awkward discussion about STDs, pregnancy, protection - its use and failure rates, legal consequences, respect, that sex has emotional consequences (not just physical) for both him and his partner, etc.  Make sure he knows he can come to you about anything if he wants.  Talk to him about relationships.

I agree with PP that the way you phrased your earlier message was really creepy.  You need to be more precise with your wording and DON’t tell your son you want him to have sex while still in your care so you can make sure it’s done in a safe manner.

You might also want to keep in mind that his girlfriends’ parents may not share your motivation to have their daughters get laid young.  Please don’t mislead them into thinking you’re chaperoning. [/quote]

PP who find this poster's wording to be creepy as you rightly pointed out.

Also, great point about the girlfriend and girlfriend's parents! They might not be onboard with this lady's plan to deflower her son ASAP. She's basically treating her son's potential girlfriend as a object to be used, not as a whole person whose thoughts, feelings and wellbeing should be considered alongside her son's.[/quote]

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