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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it appropriate for an educator to tell an elementary school child to walk at the end of the line for the final quarter of school because they are sick of telling them to stop talking in line?

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How do you respond when your child ignores your requests?[/quote]

Haha most of these “constant irritation” behaviors that exist are also seen at home with the kids also disrespecting their parents.

Sometimes I think people here have completely forgotten what school is like. They actually think it’s OK for their kid to be constantly disobeying. [/quote]

I'm a parent of a talker and I don't accept my kid constantly disobeying, but I do recognize that she often isn't "disobeying" so much as she's struggling with a rule. I could absolutely see this happening to her. Personally, I would try to reframe it as "the teacher is trying to help you remember not to talk in the hallways because sometimes it's hard to remember -- if you are behind everyone, it will be easier to remember because there will be fewer kids around you to talk to." So not even as a punishment, but as a way to facilitate her following the rule.

I think if the teacher framed it as a punishment, leading the kid to feel shamed by it, that was a mistake on the teacher's part. Kids are super sensitive to shame and punishment and it often distracts from the lesson you want to teach. It really works best if you can find a way to be on the same side as the kid ("how do we solve this problem together") and then invite them to join you in the solution, instead of administering a punishment. It empowers kids to *choose* to behave, and to see you as an ally in that happening.

Parenting/teaching is much easier if you don't view yourself as in opposition to the child all the time. I get annoyed with teachers who still haven't figured this out. Sure, it takes more work up front to take the approach I just outlined, but you get better results in the long run. Your kids need to see you as an ally and resource, not a dictator due for an uprising.[/quote]

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