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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn’t a function of the custody schedule. Your dad abandoned you, then he did the bare minimum to not have to face any personal or social accountability. [/quote] This. Good parents don't settle for periodic parenting. Good parents are very present. Think: conscious uncoupling and coparenting. Have you ever told your dad how you feel? "Dad, while we can't rewrite history or undo what has happened, the reality is that I really haven't felt like a priority in your life. In fact, I've felt like a burden. I'm a big girl now and I really don't require much attention, but it hurts that you don't have pictures of our family in your home and it is noticeable that I'm the only one who reaches out. I would love it if you would call or text every once in a while--it would demonstrate that you care about me and want a relationship. I honestly feel like if I stopped reaching out, I would never hear from you again." Some people suck. Some people are very selfish and simply aren't equipped to invest time in others the way normal people do. My advice is to determine if you want a relationship with him--and if you do, then you need to share your feelings and then accept him as he is...because you can't change a person. He might change on his own after hearing from you. Even if he doesn't, it's up to you to decide if you still want a relationship. I think relationships are so much easier when you accept people's limitations and manage your own expectations. Sometimes a halfway decent relationship is better than nothing at all. That's for you to decide. [/quote]
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