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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son is similar. And to address a PP, we’ve had him assessed recently for ADHD and they said he has some traits, but in general it’s simply an issue of motivation. If he wanted to invest more effort in school he could summon the focus, but since he cares about other things more…he doesn’t. I bet my kids grades are lower than you are dealing with - his grades are a mix of Bs and Cs with As in art. He will probably end up at a non-flagship state school. I’ve had to wrestle with my own snobbery to become okay with that. He is okay with that! And it’s his life. When we told him that community college is on the table if he can’t get his grades up he shrugged and said “it’s still college, right?” It does drive me bonkers, but he is a lovely human being, beloved by friends, teachers, and coaches. I hold on to that, knowing he’ll be okay in the long run. Relationships are more important than credentials for human happiness.[/quote] [b]You can always pay for a private liberal arts college[/b] like I did in a similar situation. I am not sure it was the right choice and if felt a bit like saving face, but at least things didn’t further deteriorate as I was worried they would do at CC. [/quote] DP. Spoken like someone who has more money than sense, someone who allows fear to govern their decisions. You, clearly, have no clue how expensive college is for 'normal' people. My DH and I are both college graduates and have been saving for college for our kids since they were very small. One year at the Virginia state schools my kids were accepted to cost 17% of our gross income and 22% of our net (per our most recent tax filing). I still have to pay the mortgage out of that net income. My DD had to turn down the private liberal arts colleges she was accepted to because we cannot afford them and we are unwilling to incur that kind of debt. I have an older DS who is finishing his 2nd year of CC - which you find so worrisome. How freakin classist, and misinformed, of you. I can't speak highly enough of about CC. The quality of instruction has been no different than any other traditional university. Virginia public universities, at least, have recognized that because they participate in the guaranteed admissions program. Students meeting GPA and course requirements at NoVa are guaranteed admissions to any Virginia public university and many other public/private institutions outside the state. We paid about $7.5K for a year for NoVa (fall, spring, summer sessions). It's been an excellent value. My DS has until May 1 to decide if he's going to UVA, W&M or Virginia Tech. My middle child is a senior in HS, was accepted at most of the universities she applied to [/quote]
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